True and false goal: what is this, how to recognize, examples from literature.
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To set the goal in life is a difficult task. Today we will analyze what is the difference between the truth and the false goal, what needs to be done in order to find out the false goal and leave the destructive path in time.
What is a true and false goal?
So, the true goal comes from the soul, from the depths of the heart and always carries creation. Such goals can change throughout life, but carry one direction, and give a person a sense of happiness. Such a goal can have healthy competition, but never destructive power for society and personality in particular.
The false goal is the goal that parents have found for a person, for example, parents tell your son, you will play football, because this is a male lesson, and never look at cooking - this is the lot of women. The boy does not want to engage in a “girlish” occupation and avoids him, fearing the conviction of his parents and society, despite the fact that he is really interested, and perhaps he would have opened a restaurant over time and received a Michelin star.
But no, he will engage in an interesting occupation, he will quit football as soon as he grows up. But since he was not given the right to choose in childhood, and he did not learn his first lesson, the specialty will most likely choose also parents, and by the age of 25 you will see a tired, irritated young man who goes into the world of games, or with addiction to alcohol.
Also, generally accepted standards can lead to a false goal. From the virginity imposed concepts of life, stable work and family. At heart, the teenager has a desire to travel, create, boil ideas and even have plans for their implementation. But all this is divided about the need to sit out for 5 years in an educational institution, get a job and by the age of 30 have a mortgage for an apartment, a spouse and a couple of children. What is this? Accumulated discontent, quarrels, broken fates. When a person understands that his goal was false, it is already too late to change something and he will never run away from the burden of obligations.
In order to understand if you have a true goal, you need to think about it in a calm atmosphere, and if there was no feeling of discomfort, and the thoughts that this can bring harm to someone (not a sense of disappointment of parents, namely the harm of life or well -being) "Live" with her for at least 21 days. Then return to issues of internal comfort again, and to understand whether the new lifestyle caused harm. And if everything develops well - boldly go to your true goal, not paying attention to temporary difficulties or unreasonable convictions.
What is the difference between a true and false goal?
In literary works, the question is often raised, what is the difference between the true and false goal, about how the heroes of the novels fight for their rights, or, on the contrary, make irreparable life mistakes, after which they do not recover.
In the novel "Done by the Wind" Margaret Mitchell The heroine Scarlett clearly knows what her goal is and, despite all the difficulties that await her on the life path, goes to her true goal. Please note that her true goal is creation in society, marriage with a beloved man and creating a happy family.
At that moment, when she realized that her beloved man wants to leave her so as not to make him unhappy, she let him go, despite the fact that she was in a position. Pay attention to how the heroine is efficient, she wakes up full of energy every morning, because the true goal gives a surge of energy and happiness. She realizes that she does not cause misfortune to the world, and this adds confidence and sensations of happiness to her.
Now let's consider the false goal, which was followed by Raskolnikov in the novel “Crime and Punishment”. Fedor Dostoevsky. For a long time he wandered from one false target to another, which introduced him into extreme depression and poverty, after which his gaze was turned to the old woman who personified all his troubles and misfortunes. She became in his eyes a collectively all kinds of troubles, sins and shortcomings, and at that moment his inflamed mind made a new, incorrect decision - his goal to kill the old woman, thereby taking away all problems and troubles from this world, as well as improve her financial situation.
This goal was accepted in a fit of anger and negative emotions, carried not creative, but destructive power, and this led to irreversible consequences. After the murder of schismatics, he realized that his goal brought nothing but destruction and pain, he had a deep repentance, but the consequences of this false goal became crushing for him.
But these two examples are only white and black, and as we know, our life has many shades and not always the true goal is not condemned by society. The desire to get rich, while using dexterity, cunning and ingenuity is condemned today, and in past centuries was completely considered something unacceptable for a respected person. At the same time, Chichikov from Nikolai Gogol’s novel “Dead Souls” initially came to the conclusion that his true goal is wealth, and his life path should take shape so that he could get rich.
And, despite the fact that at the end of his journey, it would seem, he did not reach the goal, since the lists were not recognized as valid, he gained fame, respect and casket with coins. The image of Chichikov is indicative, since, without even reaching the true goal, he became happy in his path to this goal, without even reaching the goal, he did not harm anyone and sorrow.
Let's summarize:
- The true and false target goes hand in hand, and only a person will be able to make the final correct choice. “Good helpers” and parents-tuckers are more harmful than help to recognize the true goal. Therefore, if you want to help a loved one find a true goal - create a state of calm and comfort around him, and do not throw a strangle of responsibilities and stereotypes;
- The true goal always carries creation, and a person finding a true goal, as if gaining wings, as he feels himself happy and capable of implementing his ideas into life;
- The false goal does not always carry evil and destruction of society, but always destroys the life of a person who has chosen it. A person living with a false goal feels that he lacks something, that he lives someone else's life without finding himself a real one.
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