How to choose godparents for a child: rules, tips, responsibilities of the godparents, what to know to the processions. Who can and cannot be a godfather, a godfather at the baptism of a boy and a girl? How many years and how many times can you be a godfather, a godfather?

How to baptize the child correctly, what rules to observe.

In the life of each child, his parents are the most important people. After all, it is parents who are those people who give us life, love, care and attention. This fact is undeniable and known to all of us since childhood. However, do not forget about spiritual parents or, as we are used to calling them about the godparents.

The question regarding the choice of godparents and the baptismal procedure itself has always been and remains relevant, since both the godfather and the godfather and the godmother are given to the child alone for life. Moreover, it is precisely the spiritual parents that the most responsible task is to educate the baby in accordance with the generally accepted norms of morality and, of course, faith. Well, today we will talk in detail about all the nuances of the baptismal and selection of processing parents, so that you no longer have to worry about this.

What are the godparents for?

How many people know why the baby needs godparents? How many people think about this issue? Unfortunately no.

• Most couples, choosing godparents to their children, think not about what it would be worth it.
• It is customary to take people well -known in Kumov. Most often these are friends or relatives. Not the last factor when choosing godparents is their financial condition, while you need to pay attention to completely different things.
• I must say what to talk about the question: "What are the godparents for?" It stands after the answer to the question will be: “Why baptize the child at all?” Agree, it is quite logical. This is what we start with this.
• According to Orthodox beliefs, each person comes to this world with original sin. It is a violation of the same ban by Adam and Eve. So this original sin is a kind of innate disease, without getting rid of which, the baby will not be able to grow up healthy and happy.
• To remove this sin, perhaps only by accepting faith. Many parents try to christen the baby as soon as possible, but in principle they do not understand why they need to do just that. Here is the answer to you, they baptize the children as soon as possible, so that they are with God, and he endowed them with all kinds of benefits.

Now we proceed to the question, why do we need godparents:

• As a rule, each person is baptized almost immediately after birth. By virtue of his age, the baby, and, in principle, the teenager cannot objectively evaluate the importance of this step, as well as they cannot follow this faith, because they simply do not know her.
• It is for this that we all need godparents. Crosses perceive babies directly from the font and become full -fledged spiritual parents (godmother, recipients).
• The second parents should teach the child to live "by the rules." In this case, we are talking not so much about the rules of life in society as about the foundations of the Orthodox faith. The godfather should instruct the baby on the true path, take care of him and love him as his own child, and if the godson once stucks, extend his hand to help. Also, recipients should always pray for their godson and ask the Lord to be favorable to him.
• Based on the foregoing, we can conclude that when choosing godparents for their child, it is necessary to look not at the availability of money and capabilities, but at what way these people lead to and whether they are actually believers.

How to choose a godfather and a godfather for a child: rules, who can be a godfather, meter and from how many years?

Choosing a godfather for the baby, few people think about how it should be. We are more likely to evaluate the future recipient according to other criteria: a friend, a relative, responsible or not, lives in this city and can often see it with a child or not, etc. However, the church puts forward its own rules and they need to follow.

Important: of course, the godmother should be baptized. This condition is mandatory and is not subject to any discussions. After all, how can an unbaptized person who does not believe in God and, accordingly, does not understand the commandments on which everyone who came to this land should live, teach this to all a small child? The answer is obvious.

• Moreover, the recipient must be church. However, in our time, few people know even the meaning of this word. Speaking in simple words, then a person who is not only baptized, but really believes, lives in a Christianly and tries to follow all the foundations of his faith is considered churching.

• Relative to age. There are no clear boundaries here, but the church is inclined to the fact that the recipient must be an adult. Why is that? The point here is not in the 18ths, but that adults are considered to be quite adults and responsible for such a serious step. By the way, we are not talking about civil majority, but about church. Despite this, you can become godparents before, but this issue must be discussed with a priest who will give permission for this.

The godfather should choose similarly to the godfather:

• The spiritual mother must be a believer of the Orthodox Christian, respectively, it must be baptized.
• It is also necessary to take into account how a woman lives. Whether she believes in God, whether she goes to church, whether the baby will be able to raise the baby with an Orthodox Christian.
• In addition to church restrictions, future parents should pay attention to other things. Choosing a godfather to your baby, you must understand that in fact this woman will be the second mother for your child and, accordingly, you must completely trust her.
• You should not take unfamiliar or dubious people to the godfather for the baby. Cross must be responsible and trusted people.

Who can not be taken to the godfathers to your child?

If you have really worried about this issue, then we recommend that you consult with the priest, he, like no other, knows the answers to all your questions. However, in general, the Church prohibits to take such people to the godparents:

1. Monk or nun. Despite this, the priest can become the receiver of the baby.
2. Native parents. It would seem, well, who, if not parents themselves, can give the child the best upbringing and help? But not, parents are strictly forbidden to baptize their kids.
3. A woman and a man who is married. The church does not just approve, but strictly prohibits ignoring this rule. Because people who baptize the baby become relatives on a spiritual level and, accordingly, they will not be able to lead a worldly life after that. It is also forbidden to marry the already consisted kumovsi - this is considered a huge sin.
4. It is clear that it is impossible to take people who suffer from psyche disorders and are seriously ill.
5. And one more rule that we previously talked about briefly. The age of the godparents. In addition to adulthood, there are two more age thresholds: the girl should reach 14 years old, and the guy - 15. In principle, it is not worth discussing a lot about this condition, because it is clear that the child cannot educate the child, and therefore take such age -related to the godparents Categories cannot be.

How many times can you be a godfather, a godfather? Is it possible to refuse to be a godfather, godmother?

The church does not give a clear answer to the question of how many times you can baptize a child and this is quite logical:

• Reception is a very big responsibility and the more children you baptize, the more this responsibility becomes. That is why a person must answer such a question to himself. Ask yourself the question: “Can I pay as much attention as much as he needs?”, “Do I have enough spiritual and physical forces to educate another child?”, “Do I have to“ burst ”between all the gods?” . That's when you honestly give yourself answers to such questions, then you will understand whether you can christen another baby or you have to refuse.
• By the way, many are wondering: “Is it possible to refuse to be a godfather, godmother?” The answer is possible, moreover, it is even necessary if you do not want to do this or cannot for some kind of reasons.

• A person who was offered to baptize the baby should clearly understand that after the sacrament of baptism, he will become a native person, his second parent for the child, and this implies a huge responsibility. It is not just to come for a birthday, to congratulate Happy New Year or St. Nicholas, no, it means to constantly participate in the life of the baby, develop him, help him in all his endeavors. Not ready for such responsibility? Refuse immediately, because this is not considered a sin and something shameful, but becoming a recipient and not fulfilling his direct duties is a church sin, for which God will definitely ask.

Is it possible to baptize a child without godfather, godfather, godfather, with one godfather?

In ancient times, only one recipient was baptized by a child. Boys are a man, girls are a woman. This is due to the fact that once a long time everyone was baptized by adults and, accordingly, did not be shy, took the same sex with them to their godparents.

• Now, when the baptism is taking place at the stage, while the baby is still very unintentional - two recipients of different sexes can be baptized at once.
• At the request of parents, only a man or only a woman can baptize a newborn. For boys, this is a man, for girls - respectively a woman. The church does not prohibit such a practice, moreover, initially everything was done that way.
• There are situations when the parent wants to hold a sacrament of baptism without recipients at all, and this is quite possible. In this case, they are baptized without godfather in general. However, initially this nuance should be discussed with the priest, so that then you have no surprises.

Is it possible to be a godfather, a godfather of two or several children in one family?

The church very concisely gives the answer to this question. It is possible and necessary if you were offered it, and you want it. There are no prohibitions on the godfather/godfather at once by two children in the family, and such a phenomenon is quite common. The main thing, making such a decision, objectively evaluate your capabilities and if you are ready for such responsibility - go ahead.

Can a pregnant woman unmarried to be a godfather of a stranger?

How many disputes this question causes, and superstition, by the way, too:

• For some reason, it is generally accepted that a pregnant woman has no right to baptize the baby. However, this statement is completely unfounded. The church in no way prohibits the expectant mother to become a receptionist of a newborn, moreover, it is believed that it is even useful for a pregnant woman. Therefore, you should not believe in prejudices if you are faced with such a situation and do not know what to do correctly, just contact the church, there everything will be explained in detail there.
• The same goes for an unmarried woman. The fact that a woman is not married does not say that she cannot be a good receiver for the baby.

Can a grandfather’s godfather and godfather be a grandfather, granddaughter, granddaughter? Can a native, cousin, dear, cousin to be a godfather, godfather of a sister, brother?

Most often, we choose our friends and friends as godfather, but some people express their desire to be baptized by their native people.

• Orthodox faith does not forbid grandparents to become godparents for their grandchildren. Moreover, purely from the point of view of education is very good. Grandpa and grandfather lived life, have rich life experience, and grandchildren are holy for them, so someone who is, and they will definitely be able to raise a newborn in accordance with all the rules and foundations of Christianity.
• The baptisms did not affect the brothers/sisters of the newborn baby. The church permits and approves the baptism of children with their family and cousins.

• Everyone knows that younger children always want to be like their older brothers and sisters and imitate them in every possible way. In this case, the subject of imitation will have to help his godson in every way and show only a positive example.
• The only thing to think about is about the age of possible godparents. After all, the recipients should be responsible and relatively experienced people.

Can a husband and wife have godfather, one child? Can godparents get married?

Regarding this issue, the church is very strict. It is strictly forbidden for the child to baptize a married couple. Moreover, future Kumovyam is also prohibited from marrying in the future. In simple words, then between people who baptize the same baby should be only spiritual connection (godmother), but not “earthly” (marriage). In this case, there can be no other way.

Conversation before the baptism for the godparents: what does the father ask before the baptism?

Few people know, but before the sacrament of baptism themselves, future recipients should go to special conversations. In practice, we can see that sometimes such conversations are not held at all or are held, but not the number of times that is necessary.

• As a rule, during such conversations, the priest explains the future cross of the Orthodox faith, talks about what responsibilities they will have in relation to the godson.
• Those who do not know the foundations of Christianity are advised to read the Holy Scriptures. This will help future spiritual parents better understand faith and, accordingly, understand what is required of them in raising the baby.
• The father also tells that the recipients should withstand a 3-year post, and after that confess their sins and take communion.
• Directly at the sacrament of baptism, the priest asks future gods of gods about whether they believe in God, whether they renounce the unclean and whether they are ready to be recipients.

The christening of the boy and girls: requirements, rules, responsibilities and what do you need to know for the godfather?

If you were offered to become a child’s godfather - this is a great honor and responsibility. Therefore, you should know the following rules and requirements for you:

• Of course, the main requirement for a woman who will baptize the child is baptized and sincerely believe in God.
• Further, a few days before the celebration you need to confess and take part. It is also worth refraining from any carnal pleasures. And besides all this, you should know the prayer “Symbol of Faith”. You will read this prayer at baptism only if you baptize the girl.

Your responsibilities to the baby as a godfather:

• The godfather takes responsibility for raising a child
• Should teach him to live in accordance with Christian rules and foundations
• Should pray for him before God and help the baby in everything
• Also, the godfather should take the child to church, do not forget about his birthday and baptism
• And, of course, it should be a good example for him

What else do you need to know the godfather in addition to this? You can add, perhaps, only responsibilities regarding organizational issues:

• It is generally accepted that it is the spiritual mother who should bring the child a crust (special baptismal towel) and a baptismal set, which, as a rule, consists of a shirt, hats and socks or from pants, sweaters, hats and socks.
• It is important to know that Kryzhma should be new, it is in this towel of the newly baptized child that the priest will put. This attribute is a kind of protection for a child and can then be used as a talisman.

The christening of the boy and girls: requirements, rules, responsibilities and what do you need to know for the Cross of the Pope?

It is also important for future godfathers to know certain rules and obligations related to the baptism of the baby:

• In the same way as with mom, the godfather should be an Orthodox Christian and be baptized.
• The main duty of the spiritual dad is to be a worthy example, this is the most important if the child who is baptized is a boy. He must see a worthy example of male behavior in front of him. Also, the godfather must take the godson to the church and teach him to live in peace with all surrounding people.
• It is accepted that the future recipient must buy the baby a cross and a chain or a thread on which a cross can be dressed. Also, the acquisition of the baptismal icon will not be superfluous. It is the godfather who must pay for all the costs of baptism, if any.
• It is better to solve all these concerns and troubles in advance, so that then you do not have to do everything at the last moment.

The christening of the boy and the girl: what should the godmother do on the christening?

It is necessary to clarify right away that on the christening of the girl the future godmother must be present, but the godfather may be present in absentia.

• Directly on the christening themselves, it is the godfather who will perceive the godson after immersion in the font. To keep the baby initially, most likely, there will be a godmother.
• After the child is given to the godfather, she must put the girl in a new outfit.
• Further, the receiver holds the baby while the priest reads prayers, and when he performs anointing.
• Sometimes priests ask to read a prayer, but most often they do it themselves.

• Everything will be similar to the boy, however, after dipping him in the font, he will be handed over to the godfather. Also at the baptism of the boy, he is necessarily brought by the altar (after 40 days from birth).

The christening of the boy and the girl: what should the godfather do on the christening?

The duties of the godfather are not much different from the duties of the godfather:

• The spiritual dad can also hold the baby.
• After the priest receives answers to all traditionally asked questions, perhaps the recipient will be asked to tell a special prayer. But again, most likely this will be done by the father.
• The godfather helps to undress the child before immersion in water, and then dress. If the child who is baptized by the girl, then after this rite she will be handed over to the godfather, if the boy, then hold the godfather.

Is it possible to change the godfather, the godfather, the godmother for a child, a boy, a girl ?

All people come to this world only once, exactly the same amounts are allowed to be baptized.

• The church prohibits the change of godparents, moreover, in fact there is no such possibility, because there is no such rite.
• That is why repeatedly, attention was drawn to the fact that baptizing a child is a huge responsibility, which after which you can’t just take and refuse after.
• Crosses do not change under any circumstances. Even if over time you stopped communicating with kumovsi, even if they left and cannot often see the baby, they still remain his godparents and bear responsibility for him.

How many godparents should a child have, can there be two godmother mothers and two godfathers?

Previously, we have already discussed this issue a little:

• Nowadays, two people are most often taken to the godfather: the godfather and the godfather. However, you can do it differently.
• You can take only the godfather in Kumovya to the Pope or the godfather. At the same time, it is worth remembering that for a newborn baby the presence of a receiver is more important, and for a boy-still a recipient.
• If for some reason you do not want to take godfathers at all, well, or just take you to you, then you can baptize the child without recipients in general.

• Moreover, you can ask that the priest becomes the godfather for your baby, but you should take into account the fact that it is unlikely that a person remote from your family will be able to pay due attention to the child.
• Can there be 2 godparents or 2 godfathers is a rhetorical question. This must be clarified directly in the church in which you want to baptize the child and the priest who will conduct the rite. Cases are known, but different churches, no matter how strange it sounds, can give you a different answer.

Can a Muslim be a godfather at the Orthodox?

The answer to this question is very obvious. Of course. After all, how can a Muslim teach a child to the Orthodox faith? No way. The only thing a Muslim can do is to stand in the church during the Sacrament of Baptism if it is committed over his relative.

As you can see, the issue regarding the baptism and choice of godparents is very relevant and actively discussed. There are many rules and prejudices, which in our time for some reason stand on the same step with church customs, which is why if you do not know what to do in a particular situation-go to the church, all the moments you are interested in will explain in detail there.

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