Want to decide on feelings? Go through the tests below.
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The period of such doubts pass everything, regardless of age. A young girl, falling in love with a pretty guy, sees nothing around and no one except the object of her sig there. But the period of romance passes, a new phase begins - stable even relationships, when everyone around began to consider you a pair, when everything is stable and smooth, and both are already confident that he (she) will not go anywhere (she) from her. It is here that the danger lies in wait.
Do I love: test
"Have I hastened with a choice?" "There are how many pretty girls around, and no worse!" - Approximately such thoughts begin to creep into the heads of girls and guys.
Moreover, about the same thing happens in the heads of those who have already tied their bonds and managed to go from passion and ardor to the state in which every day you need to solve some household problems.
It was then that the mind is connected to the worried feelings and emotions. And for some reason we only now begin to think: do I really love him (her)? Our ego is included, which brings our own desires and aspirations to the fore, one of which is to understand ourselves. So let's figure it out.
What is love - it will not formulate unequivocally, probably not one person, because it is so different! Treatises and poems, novels and practical manuals are written. In all this array of examples and definitions, one can isolate some points that speak of true feelings that differ from passion and lust.
In order to understand whether it is inherent in such an attitude to your chosen one, try to go through the next blitz test consisting of only three questions:
- Do you feel comfortable while being next to him?
- Do you feel the feeling of joy and tranquility from the fact that he is near?
- Are you not annoying the need to give him anything?
If you answered positively three times - do not worry, you can be sure that your relationship is built on true feelings. If you thought or on some of the questions are ready to say “no”, you need to delve into yourself and look for the reason for this “no”.
The old tested way is to analyze your attitude towards a partner on paper. Divide the sheet into two columns and write down in one positive qualities that you find in it, and in the other - negative. If the first column is larger, then you have made your choice consciously and correctly, this is exactly the person who is worthy of your love.
Well, in order to reinforce the conclusion to which you came, go through another test that will finally help you set up all points over the "and".
- Are other opinions and tips in your behavior with a partner important for you?
a) yes, the opinion from the outside is always objectively;
b) no, this is my relationship and only I am responsible for them;
c) more often I do not listen to someone else's opinion.
- How do you perceive the shortcomings of your loved one?
a) I strive to help him get rid of them;
b) I do not consider this to be disadvantages, each person is unique;
c) I perceive it with all its shortcomings.
- Do you strive to look better than you really are when you are next to your partner, or do you remain?
a) Of course, I want to look perfect;
b) I do not strain at all and behave the way I want;
c) such a question in the head never arose.
- Do you mentally talk to your chosen one?
a) Never. For what?
b) very often I turn in my thoughts to him;
c) In the case of a quarrel, I build a dialogue with it in my head.
- Are there any topics that you prefer not to touch on your conversations?
a) yes. Not everything can be discussed openly;
b) for us there are no forbidden topics, we are frank even in small things;
c) if the topic is unpleasant for us, why talk about it at all?
- Sex for you is associated only with your chosen one or you can present another in his place
a) unless one of the stars;
b) no, sex with anyone else is unacceptable to me;
c) a difficult question.
- Do your relationship with your loved one inspire you?
a) sometimes on exploits, sometimes on the spleen;
b) Yes, always;
c) only when I see him.
Now check your answers. If in them the option "A" prevails - Your confidence in your beloved can hardly be called complete. You doubt, without fully understanding either yourself or your feelings. Perhaps you should take a closer look at him and listen to yourself to understand what bothers you.
Most of your answers are marked with the letter "b"? These are real strong feelings. If you honestly answered and have not been shouted anywhere, then you can only congratulate you - you really found your second half and sincerely love your chosen one.
And finally option "B". If it prevails in your answers, then most likely you are firmly married for a long time. However, a lot unites you, because love is not only feelings, but also common goals. If you have not yet decided to fasten your union, then such a result is an occasion to check your feelings again. So far they are not too strong.
Does the chosen one loves you: Test
How many daishes were injured, answering this eternal girlish question "loves - does not love?" And it suffered in vain, because one cannot understand with one cutting off the petals to understand exactly what was hiding his attitude towards you. The manifestations of love are so multifaceted that the spruce does not help here, even though you cut off all its needles one at the same time. It is possible to understand the manifestations of the feelings of a young man only with the help of a detailed analysis of his actions.
There is no methodology that would classify the manifestation of feelings. Everyone expresses them in their own way, depending on temperament, situation, circumstances. One is able to sing serenades under the balcony of his beloved, despite the neighbors, and the other alone cannot force himself to pronounce the treasured words of confession. And not because he does not love, but because he simply cannot!
How to understand his true attitude? One of the main criteria is a sincere interest in the partner, in his affairs, concerns, the desire to help cope with the troubles, take a solution to at least part of the problems.
Also an indicator is his desire to attract interest in himself. If the guy tells you about his successes, this is not necessarily boasting, this is one of the ways to win your attention, to interest your person. And if he wants to do this, then you are not indifferent to him.
And a completely clear sign of a special attitude to the partner is the desire to introduce him into the circle of his friends. It is too much to talk about the presentation of parents.
So, all of the above signs are present. So loves? To finally verify this, try to answer the questions of the proposed test.
- Are you sure that your experiences are important to him?
a) Yes, I’m sure he has proved it more than once;
b) Sometimes I'm sure of this, and sometimes he manifests himself as a real egoist.
c) It is unlikely that only he and his feelings are important to him.
- Is he able to present pleasant surprises?
a) what else! And always to the point!
b) sometimes this happens;
c) you will wait from him, how!
- Do he know the little things from your daily life (who is your boss, beloved friend, what kind of music do you like)?
a) Yes, he is interested in my life;
b) not all, but he knows something about me;
c) No, he is not at all interested in this.
- Does he often ask you for help?
a) As a rule, he even rejects my proposed help;
b) rarely, but happens;
c) very often.
- Whose apartment do you live in?
a) this is his apartment;
b) this is my apartment;
c) We rent an apartment together.
- Do you often feel guilty before him?
a) almost never;
b) sometimes this happens;
c) I'm to blame for something in front of him all the time.
- Did he ask you for money?
a) no, on the contrary, I periodically occupy him;
b) well, it happened a couple of times;
c) not only asks, but does not always give.
- Do you hear criticism from him?
a) practically no;
b) it happens, but always reasoned;
c) almost every day.
- In the case of your illness, he ...
a) takes care of you, cares as an experienced nurse;
b) will ensure everything necessary, but it is unlikely to stay at home with you;
c) will wish recovery and go about his business.
So, you answered all the questions. Calculate what answers you have the most. If under letter "a" - He proves his love not with words, but by actions. You are really dear to him, like your feelings. Such an attitude towards yourself must be appreciated and answered by the same.
Your answers are mostly focused around option "b"? Well, not bad. His attitude towards you can hardly be called all-consuming disinterested love, but it is also impossible to say that for some reason the alliance with you is simply beneficial. Most likely, this is just a relationship that suits both of you. But who said that this is not one of the forms of love?
And finally prevention in the answers of the option "B". Here it is already worth considering. Perhaps he was just comfortable under your wing and is next to you because it is convenient for him? Try not to adapt to it a couple of times, do what you consider necessary, not him. His reaction will be the best indicator in the question of "whether he loves."
Regardless of the result of your test, remember that you should never relax and calm down on a relationship achieved. After all, as you know, a theorem called “Love” must be proved daily.
How to understand if you love a person?
If a person asks himself this question, then he is already on the way to distinguish sympathy or love from a sincere real feeling. He needs to take only a few steps to figure out whether he really loves.
There are several generally accepted provisions that, with a high degree of probability, will tell you what exactly you are experiencing for your chosen one. But they will tell you, and not make a diagnosis! These are only general contours that outline the boundaries that separate love from attachment or comfortable coexistence.
- So, first of all, disinterested in relations. If you expect gifts, money, help, etc. from him. - This is definitely not love.
- You accept it as it is, without trying to “adjust” to your rules and habits, put up with its shortcomings and do not even consider them to be such? Then we can say that love is based on love.
- Are you talking about everything without hiding, trusting and not afraid of ridicule? Are you sure that they will listen to you, understand and support you? And most importantly - are you ready to answer the same? Well, your feelings are sincere.
As a test of your feelings, you can try to answer the following questions:
- The time when you see your chosen one, for you the best part of the day?
- Do you want to do everything, in your power so that he is happy?
- Are you calm next to him?
- Are you counting every minute before meeting him?
- Does a long separation scare you?
- He is the first one you remember after awakening, and the last one - when falling asleep?
- Are you making plans for a joint future?
If your answers are positive, everything that happens to you really resembles love. If you doubted, answering a particular question, perhaps your feelings have not yet become stronger. Or maybe you are not confident in yourself, and not in a partner? In any case, there is something to think about.
The main thing is - listen only to yourself, to the voice of your heart and the advice of reason. After all, no one but you can determine what is primary and what is secondary in your relationship. In no case do not build them following the example of acquaintances, parents, movie heroes, etc. You are only you, and your feelings are unique. And remember that there are no feelings and experiences “in its purest form”: love has affection, love, passion, and even disappointment in love. That's why she is love. Multifaceted and comprehensive.
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