Fear of relations with men, fear of falling in love, sex, kisses, fear of women, girls, serious close and intimate relationships: symptoms, causes and treatment of phobias

How to get rid of fear of serious relationships.

There are many barriers in the way of happy relationship. Most of them are fears. In this article you will learn how to overcome them.

How to get rid of phobias and fears yourself: a psychologist's advice

• First, determine which phobia you have. Then read what thoughts evoke it. Tune in to the desired way of thinking, get rid of obsessive.
• Then each phobia needs an individual approach. However, when choosing your method of getting rid of phobia, do not forget to cheat with advice from the article.

Fear of men - androphobia: symptoms, causes

The reasons:

• Unpleasant experiences from the past. They are associated with unsuccessful relationships.
• A family. If the relationship between parents was bad and mother constantly condemned her father at her daughter.
• Phobia appears due to watching films where men show cruelty and anger in relationships.
• Confidence in their unattractiveness.

How it expresses:

• A woman constantly feels falsity in the courtship of men. It seems to her that behind all their attempts to tie communication is hidden the desire to take possession of it and quit.
• She feels anxiety in places where there are many men.
• The word man for her is associated with selfishness and impudence.
• A woman subject to this phobia is too critical of men. Finds many flaws in them.
• Often she considers herself a feminist. Constantly seeks the facts of violation of women's rights by men.

Ways to solve the problem:

• Recognize your fear. And do not try to hide him behind the fact that men are "bad."
• After the first point, consult a psychologist. With the help of hypnosis or conversations, he will help to look at men as ordinary people.

Let go of old grievances against men:

• You can write letters in which you express all your experiences because of them. Of course, such letters should not be sent to the address.
• Admire and support yourself. Every day, consciously, do not allow yourself to criticize your actions.
• Practice in communicating with men.

Fear of falling in love - Philophobia: symptoms, causes

The reasons:

• Search for an ideal partner that has only positive qualities.
• The loss of his beloved and the idealization of his personality. This makes a new relationship impossible.
• Unsuccessful relationships with the opposite sex. The previous partner was rude or cruel.
• Teenage injury. Unrequited love, transferred from 12 to 18 years old. During this period, failures are usually perceived more painfully than adults.
• Family problems. If the child often saw scandals, humiliation in his family, the opposite sex becomes unpleasant for him.

What strengthens philophobia?

• Low self-esteem
• Fear of losing personal freedom
• Fear to take responsibility for decisions made

How it expresses:

• Filophobes be afraid to have close relationships with people of the opposite sex.
  A person often does not know about this phobia. He creates his own comfortable world in which he does not let outsiders. This world consists of a convenient philofobe of lifestyle.
• The stronger than Philophobia, the more difficult it is for a person to share his feelings and emotions.
• A person either tries to be alone, or is constantly in a noisy company, in a crowded place.

• Filophobe can be sloppy, gets little old about its form. Or fall into another extreme: a lot to pay to your appearance.

Ways to solve the problem:

• Realize what hidden advantages Philophobia gives you. To do this, you can use the technique from the video at the end of this under the topics about philopobia. Such advantages can be: protection against loss of a loved one, protecting personal space and freedom, as well as protection against disappointments.
• Become more carefully to your behavior. Notice those moments when you drives philophobia. Awareness of the problem is the first step towards its solution.

• Increase your self -esteem. To do this, praise yourself even for small successes. At the end of each day or its beginning, mark your five positive qualities.
• Develop positive thinking. To do this, remember the five happy events of the past day every day and five of your achievements. And also find five positive qualities in people that you currently do not like. Read the books of Luza Hay or A. Sviyash.
• Try to communicate more often with new people, travel.
• Do the usual things in an unusual environment. For example, do your morning walks in a new, unknown area.

Video: NLP: How easy it is to change in 15 minutes? (reframing)

Fear of women, girls - gynecophobia (ginephobia, feminophobia of gynophobia): symptoms, causes

The reasons:

• A cruel, imperious or quick -tempered mother. Or she quickly changed her mood.
• Father is weak and limp.
• Unpleasant personal experience. Personal unsuccessful relationships or just an unpleasant situation associated with a woman. Sometimes ladies behave intensely and aggressively with men due to past disappointments or bad stereotypes. Therefore, the man immediately encounters the unpleasant side of the girls.

How it expresses:

• Unpleasant sensations when trying to start a conversation with a girl. It can be anxiety or a strong surge of fear.
• Fear of starting to get acquainted first, even if the girl is pretty.
• Gynecofob is trying to communicate with women as little as possible. Next to them, he feels weak and unprotected.
• During communication with women, feminophobes can be rude and arrogant. They try to emphasize their superiority.
• Gynecofobes be afraid to come into intimate contact.

Ways to solve the problem:

• You can consult a psychologist. But only if your phobia does not lend itself to your own treatment.
• Try to know the girls closer. The unknown scares. And if there is no unknown, it will be easier to start communication each time.
• Understand that the girls are the same people like you. They have their own complexes and fears.
• Practice more often in communicating with girls.

• Do not be afraid of failures. Someone “no” is not at all confirmation of your unattractiveness. This is just a sign that somewhere there is an even more interesting and beautiful girl who will tell you “yes”.
• Try to get rid of negative experiences from the past related to girls. Imagine that a girl who once offended you tells you her story. Remember, any aggression is a certificate of human complexes and fears. You will mentally see how the girl says that she was sorry that she herself felt bad, and therefore did so.

Fear of kissing - phylemaphobia: symptoms, causes

The reasons:

• Fear of seeming awkward and inexperienced
• Fear of getting unpleasant sensations
• Fear of losing control of oneself and the situation
• Unpleasant sensations when someone is in your personal space
• Once a guy/girl with whom a man kissed, laughed at his manner of kissing
• Unpleasant memories of how someone kissed you against the will
• Sometimes phylemaphobia is closely connected with fear of infecting other people's microbes (bacteriophobia)
• Fear of being rejected or refusal

How it expresses:

• Filemophobes to be afraid of relationships, try to avoid contacts with the opposite sex
• At the thought of kisses, these people feel dizziness, nausea. They tremble and experience severe stress
• Looking at a simple scene in a movie with a kiss or a kissing pair, phylemophobes feels fear and disgust

Ways to solve the problem:

• Realize: your partner loves you. And any kiss will be pleasant for him, simply because it will kiss you.
• Consult with a psychologist.
• If you have the fear of the first kiss, then having kissed once you will no longer experience it.
• Understand that the abandones of a kiss is unscrewed. More often attempts to start a new relationship. Then the failures will stop scaring you.
• If you are a man, remember that a woman can refuse a kiss due to coquetry or shyness.

• Read about hidden sexual signals of women and men to know if you need to try to kiss or not.
• Do not try to learn how to kiss on benefits and instructions. Each person is unique and individual. Everyone has their own preferences in kisses. Therefore, simply show observation during the process. Try to feel whether the partner likes whether you are doing is or not.
• If you are afraid of smell from your mouth, then remember a few simple rules. The smell from tooth diseases like caries or tooth stone cannot be disguised, only cure. To make it smelled well from the mouth before the kiss, fuck chewing gum for 10 minutes. You can read more about the treatment of smell from the mouth in this section.

Fear of sex and sexual relations - genophobia: symptoms, causes

Important: fear of showing your inexperience in a young woman/young man cannot be confused with erotophobia. It can be overcome by accumulating experience over time.

The reasons:

• Strong pain for loss of virginity
• Violence experienced in the past
• Negative attitudes from childhood. Mother or grandmother who said sex is dangerous and dirty
• Complexes due to the fact that a person is convinced that he is ugly
• Partner's caustic comments on your sexual relations

How it expresses:

• A person tries to avoid intimacy, refuses, inventing excuses.
• In severe cases, he tries not to have a relationship at all.

Ways to solve the problem:

• If you are embarrassed by your body, understand a simple truth. Your partner loves you and your body is completely for him.
• Make up more often in practice. Over time, fear will pass.

Fear of sex - erotophobia: symptoms, causes

the reasons:

• Violence
• Suggestion of adults that sex is dirty or shameful
• Unpleasant personal experience

Ways to solve the problem:

• Contact a psychologist or pass a psychological training.
• Think about the advantages of successful sex: incredible feelings, improvements of relations with a partner or partner, recovery and positive emotions.
• Talk to your partner, discuss the problem. Ask him to be more tender with you.

Fear of first intimacy - intimophobia: symptoms, causes

The reasons:

• Ignorance of how to behave
• Belief in rumors that the first sex is most often unsuccessful and shameful
• (In the case of girls) Fear that after sex, the guy will lose interest

How it manifests itself:

• A person tries to avoid contacts with the opposite sex.
• Avoids relations and is afraid to fall in love, because He knows that the relationship will have to go through sex.

Ways to solve the problem:

• Get rid of the installation that you can’t know about sex and be inexperienced (s) ashamed. This is your first time. Do not know a lot about something that you have never done not bad.
• Honestly, tell your second half the truth about the fact that you have sex for the first time.
• Be sure to protect yourself, make your sex safe. Then you will not have to regret the first time.

• Relax and tune in to have fun. Remember the pleasant sex that the heroes of films, books or your friends had. You will succeed too!
• (For women and girls) Mentally thank your fear for trying to protect you. And let him go. Realize that your partner will help you and will be protection for you. The fact that he himself can cause pain will become an incentive to get rid of fear. Emotional and muscle compression, which fear appeals, and will cause pain.

Video: Training: How to get rid of the fear of the first sex?

Fear of getting a sexually transmitted disease - venerophobia: symptoms, causes

The reasons:

• Personal experience of contact with a person infected sexually transmitted diseases
• Understanding that sex can be unsafe
• Erroneous information taken from false sources
• Trucks adopted from friends

How it manifests itself:

• Any discomfort in the intimate zone causes fear and panic vinerophobia. Even harmless inflammation seems to him the beginning of a sexually transmitted disease.
• A person who once suffered a sexually transmitted disease becomes incredulous. It seems to him all the time that the recovery is not yet complete.

• Vineerophobe is afraid of any sexual contact and avoids them.
• In serious cases, thoughts about sex are panic. It is manifested by rapid breathing, increased pulse, strong weakness. It is also repeated if the possibility of sex arises.

Ways to solve the problem:

• First of all, sincerely wish to recover. Find the pluses in sex and the advantages that he will find.

• Choose a delicate, patient doctor. He must calmly and patiently answer all your questions about your state of health.
• Give all the necessary tests and make sure that you do not have sexually transmitted diseases.

Fear of beautiful women

The reasons:

• Self -doubt, an inferiority complex
• The stereotype that beautiful women will always try to take power over a man
• Fear of refusal
• Stereotype that beautiful women are stupid and selfish

How it expresses:

• At the sight of a beautiful girl, a person has shortness of breath, dizziness, a rapid heartbeat.

• In the company of a beautiful girl, a man does not feel comfortable.
• The man communicates well with girls of ordinary appearance, but panic when communicating with beauties.
• In cases of strong phobia, a man can run away from the place where the beautiful woman is located.

Ways to solve the problem:

• If the guy is still a teenager, then this phobia will most likely pass over time.
• Contact the psychologist. Find out what event from the past caused this phobia.
• Take a course to increase self -esteem.
• Learn affirmations about self -love and repeat them to yourself, during the attacks of phobia.

Treatment of phobia hypnosis

In short, hypnosis treats phobias according to the following scheme:

• The hypnotist finds the root cause of his panic and fear in the patient’s subconscious.
• With the help of mood and suggestion, the client takes a painful event. He stops clinging to him. Forms a new, positive model of behavior. Returns to reality by another, best person.

Video: Hypnosis: treatment of fears and phobia hypnosis.

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Video: hypnosis session. Fears, phobias, anxiety.

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