The crisis of 3 years in children: as manifests itself, symptoms. How to behave to parents with a children's crisis of 3 years?

The article will help mom compromise with a child who is experiencing her 3-year crisis.

Any mother wants her child to be obedient and do not freak out on trifles.

At 3 years old, many are faced with the fact that the child begins to behave simply unbearably. Moms are upset, because this is not the behavior they wanted so much.

And how to behave in this difficult period, so as not to offend the child, but also to stay with healthy nerves?

How the crisis of 3 years in a child manifests itself: symptoms

Important: the crisis of 3 years takes place in children in different ways: someone’s mothers will not even notice it, and someone will consult from hopelessness with a child psychologist.

The main symptoms crisis:

• Negative attitude towards someone. The child can sharply stop perceiving any of the adults normally: grandparents, but anyone. What explains this choice is unknown. But if earlier the child treated this person perfectly and was glad to meet him, now the child will scream with only one form. Moreover, he will not walk with this person or listen to his instructions
• Stubborn behavior. If the child asks for something, but they refuse him-he will demand to the end. The meaning of these actions is to “break” an adult. The child will fundamentally demand to the end, even if he no longer needs it at all

• Contactness. The child, in principle, begins to contradict all the norms that have developed before this in the family and his upbringing. Here the child does not choose a victim. He simply resists everything that they are trying to offer him
• Independence. This is the case when the phrase “I - myself” flies out of your child’s lips every time you try to help him. There would be nothing wrong with this if the baby said this only in reasonable situations. But the children begin to say this when independent behavior is unacceptable: I myself turn on the iron in the outlet, I turn on the plate myself, I will raise a heavy bucket myself

• Rebellious behavior. The child begins to feel his will and independence. And if parents do not perceive his attempts, then he begins to be angry. He shows his anger and resentment in constant protests. He no longer agrees to the previous foundations
• Change interests. The child ceases to be interested in previously beloved things: toys, classes, beloved brother. He switches his attention to new interests
• Authoritarianism. The child is trying to adjust adults for himself. He is trying to indicate to whom, where and what to do

Important: someone has a difficult period for 1 month, and someone lasts 3 months. And someone will no longer become as fluffy as before.

Crisis 3 years: What to do, how to behave to parents?

The logical question "What to do?" Any mother sets himself, seeing such changes in his child.

Important: the duration of the complex period and the complexity of its course will depend on your behavior

• Do not turn the upbringing into hyper -beam. Such compressed frames do not allow the child to prove himself, from which hostile relations with others will increase in him
• You do not need to ban everything to a child. Forbid only what is really dangerous: playing with matches, for example. But if a child wants to climb a hill with which he can fall, let him do it. Just at this moment, be ready to catch him

• Parents should educate the child equally. It is not permissible when one permits and the other prohibits. This will only lead to the negative attitude of the child to the source of constant prohibitions
• Praise the child for interest in something and attempts to be independent. Even if the child will dress longer on his own, you do not need to tear out clothes from hands and adopt the baton. After all, the child will be just happy from his independence. But do not forget about the frames: you can try if it is non -hazardous

• Teach a child of the same independence
• Explanations to the child should understand him. Speak concisely and confidently, a strict. Long introductory offers will confuse the child

Important: you do not need to constantly scream at the child with his poor behavior. Just speak strictly and in a few increased colors

• You should allow more than prohibit
• Give the right to choose. Do not say: "We are going for a walk!" Better ask: “Will you go on foot or bicycle today?” The child will be pleased with the opportunity to make a decision and will not understand your cunning
• If the child has already fallen into hysteria, wait. Only when the baby calms down - calmly, but confidently, explain everything to him

Important: you must help your child live this period. Do not let everything be by itself

Crisis of children 3 years old consulting a psychologist for parents

Psychologists say that a child’s crisis is a completely ordinary and predictable phenomenon for 3 years. Parents only need to help the child survive this period.

• It will be difficult for you to listen to unreasonable tantrums daily, but your task is not to break away. A scream for a child will only aggravate the situation. The kid will become even more aggressive

• Always try to outwit the child. Let him choose himself, but out of pre -acceptable options
• Do not go with him to where he will definitely be freak out (for example, to the toy store)

Important: constant “no” from the child and attempts to solve everything by yourself - this is imitation of your behavior. The kid simply does not yet understand what is still small for some solutions

• Do not say that someone's child does better. Compare it only with yourself. For example, say: "Son, yesterday you drew the sun more accurately." So, you don’t seem to scold, and at the same time you are hinting that you should try
• Never tell the child that he is bad. Say that you behave ugly
• Support the child. If the child does not manage to wear tights - do not scold it. Say: “Daughter, you almost did it. Well done. Let's help a little "

• Try to explain the child when playing. If the baby does not want to eat, then offer to feed the bear. But then say that Bear wants to eat in turn. Explain the rules of etiquette when playing with dishes
• If your baby is trying to achieve something hysterical-do not succumb. Otherwise you will only give him a sign that this is an effective method to get what you want
• Do not be lazy to answer numerous questions of the child
• Play and have fun with your child. He should feel you his friend

Important: If your child is becoming more aggressive, then contact a psychologist for advice so as not to miss the situation

How to overcome the crisis of 3 years in a child?

To overcome the crisis successfully, you should help the child with your actions and words.

How exactly it is worth acting - read in the subsections above.

Crisis 3 years in children Komarovsky

Important: Dr. Komarovsky believes that the main task of parents is not to succumb to the provocation of the child.

As soon as the mother regrets the crying without a child, the child will do it regularly.

Simple and effective a way to wean a child arrange hysteria:

• When the child begins to cry unreasonably - leave the room
• The child will stop crying
• Enter the room and take the child in your arms
• The child will begin to cry again
• You will leave the room again

Important: Thus, you will let the child understand that when he cries, no one needs him

Passing the 3-year crisis will not be easy. But acting correctly, you can transfer this in a more gentle and fast mode.

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