10 It is impossible or 10 prohibitions for parents in raising children. What can not be done and told to parents with children?

An article about prohibited words and actions that should not be done in the presence of children. The subtleties of raising children.

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Many pregnant women look forward to the birth of their little crumb. They read magazines about the health and education of babies, and try to draw up their own plan for the development of the child. True, it is sometimes difficult to adhere to a certain plan, since the baby does not always agree with the opinion of parents.

Why can't children sleep with their parents?

There are a lot of disagreements in matters of a joint sleep of a mother and baby. There are many supporters and opponents of sleeping parents with children. Psychologists recommend spending more time with infants, since tactile contact with the body of the mother is associated with a baby with security and safety. In addition, the child sleeps better, wakes up less often.

But there are psychologists who believe that a joint dream is harmful and it can cause a breakup between parents.

Reasons why you can’t sleep with a child:

Mom accepts sedatives or antidepressants
You can not put a child between mom and dad
Mom in a dream can “hide” the baby, although women after the birth of a child sleep very sensitively. Therefore, to lie on a child in a dream is almost impossible
The baby should form as a person, and a joint dream provokes the occurrence of “over attachment”. The kid cannot remain without a mother for a long time, feels abandoned, he has hysteria
It is difficult for nursing mothers to constantly put the baby to sleep in their crib. After all, in the process of feeding, mom herself can fall asleep. It is much easier to lay a baby next to you during breastfeeding

By the age of 2-3, it is necessary to relocate the child to sleep in his crib. Here are a few rules to prepare a child for independent sleep.

First take off the side of the crib and put it on the parent with a parental bed
After that, ask the baby to lie on your territory
At night, the child can return to the parent bed, his mother must return him back to her bed
When the child gets used to it, you can put the side in place, and pushed the crib from the parental bed
A little later it is worth moving the baby to another room

Who can not be godparents?

Baptism is a mysterious rite. They say that after the procedure, children begin to sleep better, become calmer. This is due to the fact that God now protects the child. Cross parents are people who are responsible for the baby if something happens to his parents. They are spiritual mentors and advisers.

It is forbidden to invite godparents:

People who are in intimate relationships, married or are going to get married
Mentally ill people
Unbelievers, not baptized and people who believe in another religion
People who serve the church (monks)
Children, up to 15 years old

There is also an opinion that you should not take an unmarried woman or pregnant woman to the godfather. But these are popular superstitions that have nothing to do with the truth.

What can not be told to parents with children?

There are many prohibitions and taboos regarding what can be said in the presence of the baby. Children like sponges, absorb all the information and “betray” it after a certain time. In order not to blush to friends, relatives and neighbors, control what you are talking about in the presence of crumbs.

With a baby you can’t:

Discuss and criticize educators
“Water mud” by her ex -husband. Your relationship can be terrible, but this is still a father and he must communicate with the tiny.
Do not criticize the mother -in -law. This woman is almost alien to you, and she is a grandmother for your baby.
Do not speak badly about neighbors and acquaintances. The child absorbs all this and can then speak poorly about those people that you criticized in the presence of their children. You will fall into an awkward situation and risk spoiling relations with your neighbors.
Discuss your intimate life in the presence of children. It is too early for kids to delve into especially communication between a man and a woman. But do not talk about sex that this is something "nasty" or nasty. In a child at a transitional age, difficulties in communication with the opposite sex may have.
Do not discuss the methods of its education with your child, especially if you and your husband have different positions. The child will simply begin to manipulate parents.
Do not talk about the end of the world or some kind of cataclysms. Children are very sensitive and can seriously get excited.

Pay attention, talk well about friends, parents, classmates and neighbors is not just possible, but necessary. Thus, you instill in the baby respect for friends and relatives.

What can not be said to parents?

Parents are the most important people for the child, so an accidental word can affect the psyche of the baby. Therefore, treat the child with patience and try not to scream at him.

Words that can not say to the baby:

"I do not love you". Do not hurt the child, he will feel abandoned and unnecessary.
"I will give you to the orphanage". You risk creating a phobia. The child will be afraid to stay in the dark or go far from you for a walk.
"You are bad". The kid is very imaginary in relation to the words of the parents, so it can behave even worse and fully comply with the words of the parents.
“Don't go there,” “Don't do that.” Many parents are trying to protect their crumbs from troubles, to prevent a fall or failure. But you risk raising an insecure person who thinks that he is not capable of anything. In every possible way support the baby and stimulate its undertakings.
"Why are you not like that?". Parents love to compare their child with classmates, neighbors or brothers. They usually love to rebuke the baby because he is something worse. He does not know how to count, naughty, but his brother was always obedient and studied well. Such words provoke an unhealthy spirit of rivalry.

Can't you do parents?

Many parents are very smart in words, they tell the child a lot, teach him. But as practice shows, many mothers and dads do not always behave in accordance with the presence of crumbs.

With a child, it is forbidden:

Drink, smoke and swear obscenities. Children absorb everything and can repeat the behavior of parents in adulthood.
To quarrel with a partner. Children watch quarrels, this can adversely affect the psyche. Often, a boy, watching the fights and quarrels of his parents, beats his wife after marriage. He considers this behavior the norm.
Inquire in detail about his personal life. A 13-15-year-old child has the right to some kind of communication with peers. Do not limit his communication.

Why shouldn't parents offend their parents?

This is a separate topic, since children see how parents communicate with their mothers and dads. You put a certain model of behavior to the child. This is what you should not do:

Quarrel and scream on their parents
To raise a hand
Insult

Thus, you show your disrespect for the grandfather and grandfather of the child. In the future, he can do the same with you.

Why can't you call children the names of parents?

When parents choose a name for a baby that has not yet been born, many controversy arises between them. Women turn over a lot of literature and read about the meaning of a particular name. There is an opinion that children cannot be called the names of parents and this is why:

A child can repeat in the fate of his father (mother)
It is believed that people with the same names have one guardian angel. Accordingly, he will not be able to protect the child from misfortune, since mainly help the elder.
It is believed that God can take someone from a family with the same names.

Although in fact it is just prejudice. But indeed, the same names can cause inconvenience. It is not clear who is called to the phone, who came the letter, and who is called to dinner.

Why shouldn't parents cut their children?

Many have heard the belief that parents should not cut their children. This belief arose for a very long time. It was previously believed that the hair is a connecting link between heaven and body, so cutting the hair, you risk destroying this connection. In ancient times, it was not allowed to cut babies up to a year. The fact is that at that time only a few crumbs lived up to a year, and it was believed that a haircut was a rite of initiation of a child into a family.

Reasons why you can’t cut your children:

It is believed that if the mother trims her daughter, she takes her happiness
Father also can not cut his son, he cuts off a piece of his biofield
You can’t cut yourself either, you wedge into your own biofield
You need to go to a hairdresser

Many believe that such signs came up with hairdressers so that they have more customers.

Films, cartoons and series that children cannot be watched with parents

There are many films that teenagers really want to watch. Usually these are films with sexual scenes or scenes of violence. Such tapes are better to look away from parents. Here is a list of ribbons that you should see without mom and dad:

"Antichrist". This film is full of sexual scenes. In addition, there are more naked people in the film than dressed.
"Gorbataya Mountain." Film about two homosexuals. In our society, people after 30 years with aggression and contempt are homosexuals, so you risk quarreling with parents because of the "wrong" outlooks on life.
"Lollipop". A film about a young nymphash, which, through a dating site, meets a pedophile, meets with it and castrates. The film has a lot of blood and obscene vocabulary.
"With eyes widely closed." The film has a lot of erotic scenes. In addition, the film tells about swingers, prostitutes and a secret club, whose participants often arrange orgies.

Parents often watch films with their young children, not suspecting that the contents of the film can affect the psyche of the child.

Cartoons that should not be shown to children:

"South Park". The whole cartoon is crammed with obscene vocabulary
"Futurama." The series has a lot of obscene vocabulary and scenes of erotic content
"Masha and the Bear". At first glance, a cute cartoon about a girl. But psychologists have found that Masha’s behavior is inadequate, depending on such cartoons, children become stubborn, hysterical and uncontrolled.
"Happy flattering friends." A cartoon about how the inhabitants of the forest fall into trouble. The cartoon has a lot of blood and violence.

As you can see, raising children is completely difficult. And what was previously considered the norm is now not applicable. If difficulties arise in raising children, talk with a psychologist.