Learning to forgive. Why is resentment harmful to health?

Resentment causes pain, prevents life. How to overcome it?

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Each of us has encountered problems and betrayal. How to make past conflicts and quarrels do not interfere with enjoying life? How to forgive insults?

How does resentment affect health? Resentment of men and female health

A feeling of resentment brings with him anger, protest and even guilt for not being able to stand up for herself. These emotions destroy the Energpole, an invisible protective shell around the body. Because of this, immunity is weakening. From negative emotions, a muscle spasm occurs. Because of it, the heart begins to hurt, blood circulation is disturbed.

How to learn to forgive people?

Answer the question: "How often am I offended?"
If your answer is “often” - most likely you are a very emotional person. Remember past grievances. Maybe there is a specific topic, the discussion of which causes you such emotions? If you find it difficult to answer, get a diary. Write your feelings and those situations in it in which you felt offended. If unpleasant topics are found, decide what to do. You can avoid them in conversations. But it is better to prepare an accurate and decisive answer in advance. You will repel them a resentment. And when you recall the conversation, you will not feel humiliated.

How to forgive a person and free yourself from insults?

What do you feel after you were offended? Does the soul have a pleasant sense of innocence? Strange joy? Confidence that the offender should earn forgiveness? Then you use your resentment as a way to manipulate a person. After all, most people, thinking that they offended someone, feel guilty. And I want to get rid of it as soon as possible. Therefore, affectionate words speak offended, they apologize to him, they give him gifts. All this is really a good way to restore relations. But only if a person does not try to cause a feeling of resentment specifically in himself.

This behavior has many minuses. Firstly, they soon cease to pay attention to a touchy person. Secondly, the person you are trying to manipulate may feel it. And then he will either avoid communicating with you, or internally is fenced off from you. Thirdly, resentment can become your habit. And then you regularly have to experience all the unpleasant feelings associated with it.

Important: another reason for resentment is too high requirements for other people.

How to forgive the offense and let go?

If you constantly expect from others a special attitude to yourself, you will most likely be disappointed. There is an exit. Learn to love and respect yourself. Then you will not need the approval of others to feel good.

A kind, friendly person can be offended. In this case, the cause of resentment is a betrayal or causeless insult. What to do then? Several good techniques will come to the rescue.

"Heart chakra"
This chakra is responsible for love. Therefore, when you are offended, this negatively affects it.

Important: to cope with resentment, love yourself.

After all, a person who respects and appreciates himself is invulnerable. The heart chakra will help you do it. To wake up its strength, put on clothes or jewelry with green, pink or gold stones. Go to the cinema and the theater, engage in creativity.

"Water"
Take a deep breath and turn your head to the left. Continuing to inhale, return your head to its original position. Breathing deeply, look right in front of you. Imagine the events you want to forgive. Let the air that you exhale, how the water washes away unpleasant events. At the same time make a sharp exhalation and turn your head to the right. Repeat the exercise three times for each situation.

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The meaning of this technique is as follows. The left side means the past, and the right future. You part with resentment and liberate your future for joy.

You can write this exercise on the recorder so as not to memorize it by heart.

"Offender \u003d lantern column"
Do you often have to see a person who offended you? Knock the next technique. Its essence is the maximum decrease in emotions in relation to the offender.
Imagine a number of ordinary things that do not cause you any feelings. For example: lamppost, urn with garbage, sewer hatch, bush, etc. Let the image of the offender be among these objects. Scroll through this series several times in your head. Try that the image of the offender evokes as many emotions in you as a lamppost or a bush. At the end of the exercise, say three times: "I belong to (the name of the offender), as a subject. I am indifferent (the name of the offender). "

"Affirmations"
You need an hour of free time. Disconnect your mobile and computer. Relax. Light a candle with a pleasant aroma. Now, remember the most powerful insults and names of those who offended you. For each situation, repeat the following statement:

I am making myself a gift - I am free from the past and gladly accept the present.

My heart is open. Through forgiveness, I comprehend love.

Today I listen to my feelings, I am in harmony with myself. I know that my feelings are my friends.

The past was left behind. The present moment creates my future.

All the changes that are coming in my life are only positive. I'm safe.

I forgive (human name) and let him go.

I give and go back to the source all the alien energy left in my physical and spiritual bodies.

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How to understand that he forgave a person?

Important: repeat affirmations and technology until you feel joy and relief.

Before that, you can feel pain or ache in the body. In this case, do not stop. Continue to repeat affirmations. You will definitely feel better. At first, something sticky and heavy will slide from you. Then it will become easier for you to breathe. Your throat, then the head and the rest of the body is free. You will feel lightness and warmth.

How to forgive betrayal, betrayal of a loved one?

Important: do not concentrate on revenge.

It is better to focus on you feel good. Make a situation with an offender of an insignificant for you.

To do this, take yourself, find a new hobby. Believe that the next man will be much better than the former. Remember, the offender still learns about your successes and regrets.
Read the motivating fairy tales Irina Semina on the topic of love and forgiveness. You will suit you fairy tales “I will not forgive”, “about the resentment of the pave”, “Amurial affairs” and others.
Wear pink quartz jewelry on your neck. He will help to love himself again and without fear to start a new relationship with a worthy man.

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How to forgive a person in the soul?

Start with gratitude.

Important: gratitude is the ability to learn lessons from any life situation.

Find the pluses in what happened. Think that resentment is a great incentive to learn how to forgive. And forgiveness will make you spiritually stronger and happier, etc.
Be prepared for the fact that it will not work right away. You will need time to get used to a new image of thoughts. Do you want the process to go faster? Read books about people who knew how to be happy even in a difficult situation. One of them is Pollyanna, the heroine of the books of Elinra Porter.

Fairytale therapy will help you. This is a direction in practical psychology. Read and think about fairy tales on the topic of gratitude. For example, “my happiness is pache -eyed” by Irina Semina.

Join over yourself. Try to imagine what happened from a comic point of view. The offender made you painful reminding you of some kind of weakness? Then mentally bring your lack to the point of absurdity. Ruff on him from the heart. After all, the healing power of laughter is huge! Having learned to joke yourself, you yourself will become invulnerable to resentment. Then you automatically forgive a person.

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How to say to a person what are you forgiving?

How to tell the person what you forgave? Is it necessary to do this? No. He himself will guess according to your behavior. He will feel that you are no longer angry with him.
What if you do not communicate now? Depends on the situation.

The first case.

You analyzed what happened on a sober head. We realized that you do not want to continue communication. Then do not inform the former offender about your decision. Do not why resume contact.

The second case

A person is dear to you. You want to make peace. Then it is necessary to say.

Try to be sincere for forgiveness. Do not hide the resentment behind a stretched smile or insincere wishes for happiness and health. Better be honest with yourself. Once and for all, understand: forgiveness is the best solution for you and your health.