Why doesn't the wife want to cook, serve? Should a wife cook, serve her husband in Islam? The wife prepares semi -finished products - what to do? How to make your wife cook?

Ways to make his wife cook.

In current society, the problems of equality between a man and a woman are often discussed. In most European countries, women do not at all sit with a child for up to one and a half or three years on maternity leave, but go to work upon reaching a baby of three months of age. In this article we will tell you whether the wife is obliged to cook and serve her husband.  

The wife does not want to cook: should a wife serve her husband?

It is worth noting that indeed in some countries in Europe there are practically no maternity leave. However, the standard of living in these countries is much higher than ours. Therefore, any working woman can afford to hire a nanny who will educate the baby. Unfortunately, in our country with current salaries, it is quite difficult to afford a nanny, even working in two jobs.

Peculiarities:

• Accordingly, in most cases, there is no talk of a maid or cook. That is, few ordinary women can afford to hire a housekeeper, even earning pretty good money. All homework should be done by family members.
• By default, some families believe that everything related to cooking, cleaning and washing should be performed by a woman. Indeed, it was so long, starting from the era of Patriarchate. But then the women did not work. Their main work was the family, they sat at home with children, raised them, kept the house clean.
• Now the situation has changed, and many women work more than 8 hours every day, respectively, free time does not remain at all. In this regard, men are indignant that, having come home, they do not see delicious dinners, the wife does not want to cook and serve them.  

The wife does not want to cook: reasons

On this basis, in modern families there are a lot of controversy, quarrels and discords. Many men are used to the fact that in the family of their parents, mother really served her father, cooked food and cleaned. However, few take into account the level of employment and wages. Now many women earn on a par with men or even more. Accordingly, some representatives of the fair sex are indignant, and do not want to do homework, including cooking and serving her husband, as they consider themselves absolutely equivalent partners in the family.

The reasons for the unwillingness to cook:

• The woman says that as much as her husband earns, therefore, responsibilities must be distributed equally. A woman, serving and preparing food, characterizes herself as a maid or service staff. This really offends many women, and they do not want to spend a lot of their time on cooking. This is due to the fact that now many seek to maintain their body, figure and face in shape.
• Accordingly, they spend a lot of time after working on the gym, fitness, and a cosmetologist. Most of the time after work, the woman spends on caring for herself. There is practically no time left to cook food. It is on this basis that conflicts often arise in the family. Men look at this situation one -sidedly, as they are used to the fact that since ancient times a woman has been a keeper of the hearth.
• However, now a woman works in the same way as her husband, and earns decently. Accordingly, it is necessary to discuss these issues, not scream, not argue, but try to solve the situation peacefully. In most cases, if a wife loves her husband, then even if she does not like to cook, she will do this and serve her partner.
• If the wife does not want to cook, and at the same time does not respect her husband very respectfully, then disputes may occur on this basis. In this case, try to divide the housework or appoint every day or week on duty. However, in fact, this position may not arrange many men, because they are used to seeing another model where a woman is really a housewife and a servant for her husband.  

My wife does not cook for me - what to do?

Methods to establish the situation:

• In this case, we recommend that you agree on the methods of cooking or going in a cafe, restaurant, or food to house. Of course, not everyone can afford to eat daily or every evening to eat in a cafe or restaurant, so sometimes it is necessary to cook.
• Another thing is that the preparation of semi -finished products, and sandwiches are not spent so much time. Even a woman who has a rather dense work schedule can cope with this, and after work she goes to a fitness or to a cosmetologist. Talk to your wife about what you want to see for dinner, and how often she should cook. The real blasphemy is to demand a full -fledged dinner from the wife, with chicken or cutlets, as well as potatoes daily.
• For preparation of such a dinner, if you do not use semi-finished products, you will have to spend about 1.5-2 hours. This is a huge amount of time if a woman runs for 8 hours, takes care of herself and there are children in the family. In this case, the woman is in peculiar slave conditions, when after work she comes to another job and is engaged in household chores.  
• In pairs in which spouses with trepidation and love treat each other, there are no such questions. Since any of the partners will be the joy of preparing breakfast, lunch and dinner for their beloved. Accordingly, such questions arise in families where there is no love. In addition, you can agree to prepare dinner in turn or using semi -finished products.  

The wife does not want to cook: should a wife cook her husband in Islam?

Another thing is if this is Islam, a woman most often does not work in such families. Its main task is to cook food, care for the house, and raise children. In this case, the wife is obliged to serve her husband. The duties include daily cooking, cleaning and care for children. If a man has several wives, then the responsibilities are divided between them equally, or as they consider fit.

In such families, the husband can punish his wife for refusing to serve his relatives and friends. In some regions, beatings and punishments are allowed, also in the form of deprivation of money and ensuring its children. Accordingly, in Islam there is no way to refuse to serve her husband, even if the wife does not want to cook.

How to make your wife cook?

It is worth noting that nothing can be done by force, especially if a woman is wayward and characteristic. Therefore, you will have to act in more cunning and thoughtful ways.

Ways to make you cook:

• An ideal option will simply invite her to cook dinner together. Say that you will help her clean vegetables, do all the dirtiest work. Say that you want a delicious dinner tonight, and spend it in a romantic setting. Hint that you want a continuation of the evening, you will purchase champagne, maybe some gifts. Perhaps, after such a romantic evening, the wife will want to cook you much more often.  
• You need to pay much more attention to your family and help your wife in the kitchen. Indeed, women really have not ten hands, especially if there are children and their wife works. Accordingly, time is catastrophically lacking.
• If you want your wife to cook more often, and generally learn to cook well, you can make some efforts to do this. Indeed, in most cases, women go to work from morning till night not because they really want, but because of a lack of money. Therefore, if you want your wife to devote more time to household chores, let her work less. Accordingly, someone will have to take on additional duties, and earn more money. That is, you will have to go to additional work. This will help free time for his wife so that she can devote him to the family and children, as well as cooking.  
• You can record your wife for some courses or give a certificate, for a certain amount of money, and it can be spent in some center of self-development. Very often in scientific centers or various educational institutions, organize courses that will help a woman learn to cook.
• If there is no time for this, you can give your woman some good culinary book. You can stimulate it in your free time to watch videos on YouTube, the so -called culinary blogs. There everything is described in great detail and shown. You can quickly learn to cook a variety of dishes. Now there are a huge number of such blogs, they all offer quite good, tasty, homemade food. You can invite your wife to cook something like in a video. To do this, you will have to look at the video in advance and purchase all the necessary products. After that, invite your wife from the purchased products to prepare what is described in the video. Perhaps this will be a fascinating pastime for you and your spouse in the evening, free time, after work.  
• Each time, thank your wife for the food cooked and praise it, even if the food was completely tasteless. In no case should you reproach, tell that the wife is rebafing, does not know how to cook, and does it disgusting. Such conversations only worsen the relationship between spouses. Subsequently, this can lead to a divorce. Therefore, in order to stimulate the wife to learn how to cook, you must be patient. It is worth doing it kindly, and in no case do not blame, call or blame her wife that she does not know how to.  

Why doesn't the wife want to cook after childbirth?

It is also worth paying attention to the behavior of her wife and the reasons why she refuses to cook food. Most often, women find such excuses:  

• I'm tired  
• I have no time  
• I'm busy with children  
• I have no strength  

The main reason for the refusal of cooking is the child. In this case, it is not worth demanding from the wife of cooking food, it is advisable to maintain undertakings and help in every way around the house. Many men, in turn, say that they work for 12 hours, so they come home quite late, and they do not have time to help his wife. However, the work of the mother continues not 12, but 24 hours a day. Indeed, in most cases, women often wake up at night in order to feed the child, change diapers and rock the baby.

The wife does not want to cook, cooks semi -finished products - what to do?  

The theme of semi -finished products is quite painful, many men who lived with mom are really spoiled by home food. They just adore homemade cutlets, baking, and delicious borscht. However, it takes a lot of time to cook such food. Accordingly, the wife, who works 8 hours daily, is simply not able to cook such food. That is why many women resolve the issue of acquiring semi -finished products.

In this case, there is nothing to be done, and you really need to choose, or you want tasty, home food, but you will be forced to earn more so that the wife can leave work or go half -time. Indeed, with a 8-hour working day, a woman has very little time after work. Therefore, spending three hours on cooking home cutlets and borsch there is no desire and effort.  

When does the wife have the right not to cook?

In which case, the wife should not require cooking:

• There are situations that men do not always understand. Despite the change in the life charter, they still require delicious dinners and home food from their wife. Such cases include the birth of a child. Indeed, with the birth of the baby, a lot in the mother’s life is changing, now she gives almost all her free time to the child. The wife does not want after childbirth, cannot take care of himself just because of a lack of free time.
• Also, do not demand cooking from your wife if she got sick. It is worth reconsider their requirements if the wife works most of her time and earns pretty well. In this case, it makes sense to hire a housewife or service staff, if there is such an opportunity.  
• The topic of unwillingness to cook food for your husband is quite common. Now this is connected precisely with the enormous employment of women, as they seek to realize themselves in their careers and earn good money for normal existence. In men, desires do not change, they want delicious food, and homemade. But at the same time they want to see a beautiful, well -groomed wife, which took place in his career. However, this is extremely rare, most often you have to choose. Therefore, decide on your priorities and priorities of the spouse before demanding delicious and home food.  

Before scandalous due to lack of dinner, offer your wife your help. Perhaps because of a stressful schedule, she simply does not have time to do household chores.

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