How to find out about her husband’s betrayal: signs and psychology of treason. How to live after a husband's betrayal: a psychologist's advice

Husband betrayal: causes, consequences, methods of solving the problem.

Whether it is worth attaching more importance to her husband's betrayals or not, the decision is for you. In fact, it is all so easy and simple, and at the same time inexplicably difficult.

Causes and psychology of men's betrayal

• sexual diversity is important to them
• not happy men in marriage, in this way they try to smooth out harsh family everyday life

Steve Santagati, who has been a publisher in the causes of male treason for many years, claims that more than ninety percent of men are cheated due to disappointments and boredom that can be divided into the main components:

1. The woman stopped taking care of herself.A man, like a male seeks a temptation with beauty. If a woman has blurred in size, does not follow her appearance, it is not surprising that a man looks at a more attractive forbidden fruit.
2. The grunts and nagging of the wife.The grumpy character of the wife pushes the wife in the bed of another woman. What sex to talk about if he is tired of listening to her reproaches and walls. He runs out of the house, just to get rid of all this as soon as possible.
3. Misunderstanding.Men are looking for a simpler way out if there is no mutual understanding in the family. Instead of a compromise and trying to mutually find solutions to problems in relationships, they just begin to change.
4. Adrenalin.Many men, just for the sake of risk and in order to tickle the nerves, receive great excitement and pleasure from the forbidden fetus.
5. Man Hunter.There are individuals who do not even understand why they do it. Everything is fine, however, I constantly want something new. There is something like a constant hunt, like an ancient instinct-to conquer, win, collect women as another prey.
6. Natural instinct.Men are polygamous by nature. Regardless of the beauty and all the positive qualities of the spouse, at the sight of a new beautiful body, an uncontrollable desire arises. For a man, this is just sex, a random connection. Love and marital relations are more.
7. Constant excuses.Sex men need much more often than a woman. If a woman is burdened with care, unable to satisfy this need, sexually active men, seek a worthy partner being married.

How to find out about her husband's betrayal: signs of betrayal

• Irritability -starting a double lifestyle, men avoid communicating with his wife. Aggression answer any questions asked. This is one of the signs of betrayal
• Suddenly often arising formations, overtime work. For meetings with another woman, time is not provided for by the previous regime of life. From here, fictitious good reasons appear to justify your absence at home.
• A sharp change in relations.The spouse, previously attentive, ceases to notice you. Or vice versa, previously not noticed habits, suddenly became very noticeable to him and irritable.
• Excessive attention to appearance.Special hygiene, shaving, underwear. And if a visit to the gym to improve forms was added - all this makes you think. But did the loved one have different?
• Constant secret calls and SMS.The spouse often speaks on the phone closing in the bathroom. He receives SMS and scribbles the response. He practically does not let him out of his hands afraid to let him in. This requires a thorough analysis. Is he really waiting for an important call? And so his answer has been arranged? Or did someone else take possession of his attention on the other end of the wire?

• Several small signs of betrayal to which you should pay attention to:

1. Traces of lipstick on clothes
2. Unreasonable increase in expenses
3. Women's traces in the car - hair, lipstick, smells of spirits or other female things
4. Random appeal with a different name
5. Scratches on the face, body

How to survive the betrayal of her husband, how to overcome depression: Psychologist's advice

• In order to get rid of a complex psychological state as soon as possible, and in most cases, and the depression arising on the basis of this problem, it is first of all that you need to understand the reason for this problem.
• The world was destroyed. The picture of the existence of an ideal couple crashed. Alas, it hurts! But what exactly causes these suffering? The constant memories of a happy life in comparison with the fact that all this collapsed, they drive into a clogged existence every day? Life is finished. How to live on is incomprehensible and scary.
• It is at this moment that it is necessary to stop and understand that life goes on.
• An ideal way is what the wedge says, the wedge is knocked out. No need to hide from people.
• Parties, funny companies, communication with friends, acquaintance with new people - this is a way to get out of depression without antidepressants. And if you are lucky and suddenly at that time there will be a “wedge” (man) who will eclipse, all previous relationships.
• This is a chance and you need to use it. But this may not happen if you close at home and roar in the pillow.

Ask people, no matter what.

Otherwise, the direct road is first to the psychologist, and then to the psychiatrist.

There are no accidents. In everything you need to see only positive. Even with all the charms of a previous life, maybe this chance to change something. Which you were afraid to admit even to yourself.

How to forgive her husband's betrayal: tips

• The path of adaptation to a new life has been traveled. The pain subsided
• The husband wants to return to the family
• How to accept and forgive this?
• We determine for ourselves, by deep psychological analysis - do I want further life together?

A positive answer suggests the following steps:

• a concrete conversation with the spouse about the attitude to what happened and about his further plans
• if he repents and promises not to repeat the mistakes, you can forgive. But at the same time keep dignity and indicate its mistakes. Without listening to a long speech of excuses, but to offer constructive solutions
• there may be a temporary gap. This will help put the dots over "and." Understand it by chance or finally?
• if he does not feel guilty and believes that this is just a temporary hobby. He is afraid and sweat that this will never happen again, then be prepared to forgive him for the rest of his life together.

I can not forgive my husband betrayal: what to do?

• If we talk about forgiveness, then there are also several options for coherent with the previous topic.
• In general, should I forgive it?
• Life failed. He found another, I am a different option.
• In the presence of joint children, you can always agree, with the adequacy of parents, on joint education.

If the situation when the husband returned to the family premises that everything is fine, and in the soul, the resentment of options periodically boils: there are not many options:

• We accept and forgive
• We drive and forget

Husband's betrayal: Can you choose a divorce and a new life?

• If you forgive all the efforts to forgive, you can’t have a life together - it is divorced.
• Divorce is a new life.
• Having analyzed all possible options and not seeing the result, you should not be soaked in the clouds.
• Nothing changes - divorce.
• But this is already a constructive option if all preliminary methods are tried.

How to establish relationships after my husband's betrayal?

1. We are looking for positive points.We recall the pleasant moments of the first meeting, living together. All that I liked in the spouse. After all, for something you chose him, fell in love? If he fell in love, he would have gone to Vernyak. It is difficult for a man to keep the presence of children and eloquence. He chose you. So treason was an unpleasant combination of circumstances. He appreciates and values \u200b\u200byou. And also worries like you. But he is not going to ruin his family. He loves you. This fact must be aware of a look at the situation, looking around. How many men throw a family and go to your mistress? No. These are isolated cases. In most cases, the spouse chooses his wife. You are not alone.
2. We protect ourselves from unnecessary suffering.
   Do not apply too much about the problem in your family. The fewer people know about this, the less likely that someone will let him and gradually remind of this situation, inciting already faded offense. This will also help save the positive attitude of others towards the spouse. After all, a decision was made on further life together.
3. We do not hide the pain from my husband. He must feel how painful you are. But of course, it should not be everyday aggressive showdowns and clarification of relations.
   Sit down once and calmly find out the relationship. Discuss plans for the future.
   If it is difficult to say aloud, try to pour everything on paper. We write a letter to my husband. Send it or not, the decision will come in the process of writing. This is a very good, proven psychological way.
4. Reduced self -esteem and offended pride, Due to this situation, there is no reason to engage in self-flagellation and blame yourself for what happened. This can lead to the emergence of new complexes about appearance, success, sexuality and other moments.

Therefore, we disconnect from negative thoughts and are filled with self -confidence:

• We begin an active lifestyle and choose for ourselves: dancing, fitness. Just walk in nature. All that was not enough for free time.
• We completely change our image: the style of clothing, haircut.
• We communicate with friends, make new friends.
• There is an opportunity - we change work or look for a new hobby, hobbies.
• We begin to take care of ourselves and the new interesting way of our life, and not for my husband.
• In this case, the spouse will definitely be interested in his, "new" spouse. And he will be afraid to lose you.

Husband's betrayal: reviews

Olga: Analyzing my life experience, I can say that in family life a lot depends on the woman. The slightest inattention to their appearance and the advantages of the spouse is fraught with consequences.

Nina: The husband walked. The first time I learned about treason - I filed for divorce. As a result, I realized that it is easier to close my eyes to all this than to be left without means of existence, for myself and children.

Natasha:What is the problem? Does the husband are cheating? Stupidity, he does not throw. If you are able to maintain a family and mistress. The men are not enough. Let two contain than a 25% family during a divorce.

Hope: If the husband has changed once and forgive him, it will be a series of misfortunes. I betrayed - a gap once and for all.

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