How do we evaluate people? How to make a positive first impression?

Many versions exists about the first impression. Is it important, is it possible to change it. This is described in the article.

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How can you evaluate a person?

The way we evaluate people, our subjective opinion about them, and depends on what ourselves we are. As a rule, we see in people those character traits that are in ourselves. At the same time, usually these are some negative qualities: envy, anger, laziness, playfulness. That is, if a person has, for example, anger in large quantities, then he will also consider other people evil, cruel, aggressive
If a person often deceives other people, or dreams of deceiving, then it will seem to him that all people around want him to “inflate” him. If a person himself is honest with himself and others, then he would not even occur to him that he can be inflated somewhere. The point here is not naivety. Very often, such people are not good at all and do not live in “pink glasses”, but they cannot foresee cases when they are used or deceived
This is due to the fact that we interpret human behavior regarding our own behavior. In other words, our subconscious (or unconscious) always asks himself: “How would I do?” And from other people we expect the same actions that we could do ourselves

By what criteria are a person evaluated in the first place?

People evaluate each other in the following parameters:

appearance
the level of education, the presence of diplomas, certificates
mental capacity
material condition
social behavior and a circle of communication
character (strengths/weaknesses)

This is a short list. It contains the main factors in evaluating a person by man. Of course, it is now customary to prepare that appearance is not the main thing, but it is scientifically proven that the first impression on the person makes the appearance of the interlocutor.

Some people primarily pay attention to some separate features. It can be hair, nose shape, shoes, lipstick, even the shape of the eyebrows plays a role. Figure people perceive the whole image at once.

The first in order to understand whether they like it, whether they don’t like a person, it’s enough for the second look at what is paramount for them (hair, nails, shoes, jacket). After that, it usually becomes clear to them how to communicate further, and whether it will be generally
People who can perceive the image are much easier. For example, a person may have an imperfect shape of the nose, but clean ironed clothes from the latest collection of a fashionable designer. Most likely, such a person will impress an extremely positive
There is a small percentage of people who do not have a certain impression until they personally talk to a person. It doesn’t matter to them how a person looks, what is his hair color, what he is dressed in. For him, his important intellectual abilities or character. But, people of this type are enough to talk with a person for 5 minutes to understand who is in front of him
A person is inclined to judge other people, focusing on someone else's opinion. Someone said something to someone, here is a new opinion. Therefore, it turns out that without knowing a person, we already hate or adore him
Many people evaluate a person by voice. In their opinion, in the voice of a person, his whole life path and character are laid

Do people evaluate in appearance?

As mentioned above, some people tend to evaluate other people exclusively in appearance, without delving into his problems and intellectual capabilities
Unfortunately for such people, the image of a person can change very much during the day. For example, in the morning a woman walks around the house disheveled, with a mug of coffee and an elongated T -shirt. If a neighbor sees her at this moment, he will consider this woman a slut and will be disgusted with her
But an hour later, the woman puts herself in order, puts on beautiful shoes, an office suit consisting of a fitted jacket and a pencil skirt, removes her hair in a neat hairstyle, makes strict makeup. The same neighbor, seeing such a woman, will think that she is a real bitch with a snake disposition, cold and calculating
In the evening, the woman returns from work, puts on a luxurious short dress, dissolves curls, makes bright makeup and goes to the club. This time the neighbor will think that his neighbor is too vulgar and superficial
And if instead of the club a woman goes on a date and puts on a more closed dress, put her hair in a less magnificent hairstyle, does not make such a bright makeup, then the neighbor will say that she boasts with her wealth to the whole world or looking for a rich satellite, that she is usually a sloppy calculating bitch, and now he was dressed up for the case

From this example it is very easy to conclude that by the appearance of a person they are judged very, very often. However, this is hardly related to the truth.

The first impression of a person

There is an opinion that the first impression of a person is the most true. But is it
From the examples given earlier in the article, it is clear that people judge each other far from always objectively. Therefore, it makes sense to be upset if he did not like it in the first minute of acquaintance with a person, there is no particular
A certain part of people can easily change their impression for several hours, or even days, dating

Appearance and first impression

Do not miss the opportunity to make a good first impression with the help of appearance. It is clear that each person has his own tastes, addictions. Everyone is impossible to like
Nevertheless, in order to form a good opinion about yourself at the first acquaintance, it is enough to “join” the team if the acquaintance takes place immediately with a group of people. It is useful to know what these people are fond of in order to show them their interest in their activities. Your appearance should also meet the general style
If you meet 1 to 1 person, you should not put pressure on him and show your “I”. Yes, even your appearance can shout: “Look at me! I'm the main one here! ” There is nothing better than naturalness

The first impression of a man

To make a positive first impression on a man is quite simply contrary to public opinion.

First of all, men pay attention to:

figure, especially for "view from behind"
the manner of communication
posture
hair
nails. Very long or dirty nails scare men
clothes

To make a good impression on a man, it is not at all necessary to jump next to him for hours. It is enough to be direct and natural in communication with him. Do not be vulgar and too rude. It is useful for men to forgive help in some situations, even if you do not really need it. But do not ask them to count the cost of products for you, for example. You will put yourself stupid.

Many men do not like very bright colors in clothes and makeup. This causes their appropriate associations. But grooming and femininity like the vast majority of men.

Changing the first impression of a man about himself is very difficult. Unlike women, men are more logical and consistent. But they cannot think as flexible as a woman. Therefore, the first impression is very difficult for them to change.

How to form a positive first impression?

There are certain rules that will help you leave about yourself almost after each acquaintance is a good impression:

neatness. There should not be holes, spots, other people's hair on clothes
clean hair
clean teeth
a well -groomed clean face without a toothpaste, traces of a handle or spread cosmetics
your clothes should at least somehow combine each other. For example, if a woman puts on a glamorous short dress on top of torn jeans, and she will have rubber boots on her legs, she is unlikely to make a good impression
competently put speech without parasitic words
accessories must also be correctly selected. If on one ear of a woman a round earring, and on the other is a square one, her image will look extremely ridiculous
natural behavior without excessive pretentiousness

There is no second chance to make the first impression

In fact, you can change the impression of yourself. But this will already be the second, third or fourth impression. But the first impression is postponing the mark on all further communication. Especially in its early stages.

Of course, people tend to change, but when hiring, the employer will judge you at a given moment in time, he does not care much of what you will be in 5 or 10 years. He chooses an employee now, which means he judges you about you in the present tense. Therefore, it is always important to look good, because there is no second chance to make the first impression.

Errors of the first impression

It is worth remembering that what we see depends on how we look. It is worth looking at a person a little differently, and from an impudent arrogant type he turns into a sweet smiling young man, always ready to help.

Due to the lack of life experience or knowledge, a person very often judges incorrectly. The article previously gave an example with a neighbor and a girl. Such a neighbor is just an example of a nearby and petty person. Of course, you should not focus on the opinions of such people. If you learned yourself in the face of a neighbor, immediately change your views on the world. And first of all, make an assessment of your mistakes.

The first impression is deceptive

The first impression is deceptive for people who are used to not changing their opinions about people. Those who have a flexible mind are able to evaluate a person correctly and see in him who he really is.

You can dress as you like. Color hair in any color. The person will not change from this. It will not become stupid or smarter. But the opinion of him with each of his transformation will change in the diametrically opposite side.