The reasons for the destruction of friendship. Examples from literary works.
Content
Life in society is inevitably connected with communication. In the process, we experience different feelings for a particular person. Some attract us, the latter cause rejection or neutral attitude. We are talking about the first - friends.
Interestingly, in the early days of communication, their interest and magic are leaving. If friendship is real, then it remains with people for a long time, for life. Otherwise, it is subject to destruction. What can lead to such a situation - we will talk in more detail.
What destroys friendship: essays, arguments, reasons
- unselfishness
- common views, interests in a narrow or broadest sense
- respect
- the adoption of another person as he is
- sympathy
- sincerity
- Discussion of a friend's life with strangers, ridiculed them.
- Ignoring requests for help or just about the need to talk.
- Money. For example, when one of the friends took the second amount that he does not give for a long time.
- Other people who appear in the life of one of the friends. They insist on breaking their friendship, demand this. For example, a wife/husband can become the destroyers of the friendship of her spouse with another person.
- Weak character and inability to defend their interests, friendship.
- The deception of one friend is the second in something serious or repeatedly in the little things, betrayal.
- Lack of sincerity, depth of communication.
- A difficult situation that shows the true face of people, for example, a limb fracture, a serious disease, the threat of arrest, etc.
- Faith of gossip and strangers who are impartially respond to the actions and words of a friend. However, you do not want to communicate with him, clarify the situation, listen to him.
- Poor communication, when one of the friends does not listen to the other, is not interested in his life, experiences.
- Distance and time. For example, your friend went to permanent residence in another country and rarely arrives. Over time, your friendship will lose the power that was before. Your interests and a circle of communication will change.
- Class inequality. Naturally rich communicate and make friendship with equal to themselves.
- A radical change in lifestyle, the interests of one of the friends. For example, before they were both omnivorous, now one has become an ardent vegetarian and consists in a religious society.
- Self-interest, when one does something for the other with the expectation of gratitude or a response service in the future.
- Envy.
What destroys friendship: examples from literature
In literary works, you will find examples of destruction of friendship due to different factors and circumstances. As examples, we briefly recall several.
- Poem A.S. Pushkin "Eugene Onegin."
Onegin and Lensky are too different people in internal content. The open and reverent love of the second for Olga Larina caused envy in the first. This entailed the duel and the death of one of the former friends - Lensky. Although Onegin tried to explain to a friend that his choice of a lady's heart was erroneous. Due to the difference in characters, the perception of reality, Lensky took it differently. There are no guilty in this story, but everyone played a role in the destruction of friendship. - Roman I.S. Turgenev "Fathers and Children."
Kirsanova and Bazarova divorced life to the sides. One found himself in marital life and housekeeping, the second on the contrary - he was disappointed in love and reconciled with loneliness.
On the other hand, the charismatic bazarov overshadows Kirsanov, which depresses the latter, makes itself feel not at ease. - The tragedy A.S. Pushkin "Mozart and Salieri". The work presents a situation when envy and rivalry between friends create the abyss between them, destroys their bright feelings for each other.
People know how to do wonderful things and destroy the most wonderful friendship. There are many reasons for the latter, but there are times when life itself makes its own adjustments. Quarrel, scandal, rupture of friendly relations are always painful. If it is not possible to correct the situation, thank the person for friendship, remove the lessons and be wiser in the future with your new friends!